Monday, June 17, 2013

Successful People vs Unsuccessful People (Idea 4: Planner or Impulsive)

Successful People vs Unsuccessful People 
Idea 4: 
Planner or Impulsive

Successful People

Successful people tend to be better at creating to-do lists for projects and the the future. They are better able to keep themselves on a path toward something or at least to see the big picture or have a long term vision. When one is able to lay a blueprint or a foundation and begin to work on that, then many other things begin to fall into place because they have a larger idea about where they are going or where they want to go...


Unsuccessful People

Unsuccessful people may lean toward more impulsiveness. They may be more prone to spontaneity or flying by the seat of their pants. While this strategy may work every once in awhile, a more disciplined approach may be needed for the long-term. Having a long-term plan or a clear vision allows one to have a blueprint for the steps needed to accomplish larger goals and objectives.

More ideas and thoughts about having lists versus "winging it" can be found here:

Based on the The Success Indicator by MaryEllen Tribbey


Successful People vs Unsuccessful People (Idea 3): Giving or Taking Credit

Successful People vs Unsuccessful People 

(Idea 3): 

Giving or Taking Credit


Successful People

Successful people tend to be people who are confident and comfortable with giving and sharing credit. They understand that giving other people credit strengthens them. People who are around them are further enhanced, feel more valued and can show up to be their best selves. Successful people tend to be more confident and comfortable with sharing and they understand the mission and importance of other people to their organization, their business or whatever endeavor that they are trying to achieve.

Unsuccessful People

Unsuccessful people tend to still be looking for the limelight. They are still seeking credit for themselves. They have not developed a comfort level where they are overflowing and overfilled with having credit and accomplishment. They are in the state of searching. They are not yet stable and secure. There takes a tremendous amount of stability and security for one to be comfortable turning over and giving credit.

More Insights about how successful people tend to be givers of credit and unsuccessful people tend to be more on the taking side of credit can be found here:

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Series (Successful People vs Unsuccessful People Based on MaryEllyn Tribbey's The Success Indicator)

Saturday, June 8, 2013

Successful People vs Unsuccessful People (Idea 2)


Successful People vs. Unsuccessful People


Idea 2: Having a Sense of Gratitude 
vs. 
Having a Sense of Entitlement




Gratitude has long been touted as a good thing for mental health and well-being. Why? When people can show and be appreciative, they often have a better outlook on life, stronger relationships and it has been linked to phenomenal leaders who can assist all others in their purview by allowing and helping them to shine. Unsuccessful people who may suffer from feelings of entitlement may not have established the appropriate personal and social skills that help individuals rely on resilience when life doesn’t exactly go their way. They may not have the maturity to deal with the many setbacks and challenges that one may encounter on the way to success and.to overall better health. 

What I know for sure is that when you can sit and think about all of the things that you are grateful for, it can give you a sincere appreciation for the life and the people that you have. It gives you a reminder of how good your life really is. 


Feeling grateful and having a sense of gratitude always gives us a reminder to celebrate all of the GOOD in our lives that we often take for granted.


If you feel like you are entitled, you may not sense why you may have to wait, why you may need to go the extra mile or why you may need to do something different to produce the results that you want.


I am grateful today for peeks of sunshine.
I am grateful today for my health.
I am grateful for my friend who reminds me that I am doing a great job.
I am thankful that I have options.
I am thankful for a sense of calm at this moment in my life.
I am thankful for love.

Further thoughts on gratitude versus entitlement can be found here:
http://www.bubblews.com/news/631417-successful-people-vs-unsuccessful-people-idea-2

Based on Mary Ellen Tribbey's Success Indicator

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Successful People versus Unsuccessful People (Idea One)


I am using the principles created by Mary Ellen Tribbey to guide this new Success Series.

Idea #1: Successful people compliment; whereas unsuccessful people criticize.




Have you noticed that there are a significant amount of successful people who like to compliment other people. There are also a considerable  number of individuals who want and desire power that can be highly critical. Now, I am not making all or nothing statements. I will not go down the rabbit hole, saying that all successful people are complimenters or all unsuccessful people are criticizers. We know that this type of dynamic can be problematic. I will say that when I have an issue where one person may tell me that something cannot be done or is impossible, I almost always  ask for a manager or a supervisor who miraculously can do that “un-doable” thing. Now, imagine that.

The original front line person may be adamant about not allowing whatever I am asking (as a customer) but then the manager comes in and allows it. It’s like good cop/bad cop. Unfortunately the front line employee is the bad cop and the supervisor gets to sweep in and be the good cop. I usually attribute this type of behavior to employees not feeling empowered. They have not been given the authority to do “what can be done.”

We can also use this example to think about success and non-success. When I was younger, I often worked in retail and I often was promoted to management relatively quickly. Now, I don’t say this to boast or brag, I say it to describe a mindset. I'm a possibility thinker and opportunity seeker. How can we satisfy or over deliver to this customer? Even though, the rules say one thing. I often talked to management about “what could be done and what was possible” instead of getting stuck on what couldn’t be done or what was vaguely impossible.

Now let’s take this idea a bit further:

For people you think or feel are successful in life, are they complimenters or criticizers?

Do they help or hate?

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I originally wrote this post for Bubblews but I have edited it to use on my personal blog.
My Bubblews article can be located here: 
http://www.bubblews.com/news/626970-successful-vs-unsuccessful-and-applying-it-idea-1